EMPATHY

I empathize with obese teens especially girls when i see them with their friends in Sunday School. I've been obese my whole life and i know the kind of acceptance this world has for our species. The daily dose of verbal harassment and abuse we get from acquaintances, random strangers and even from kids younger than us who would mercilessly call us names while their parents just laughed it off without a word of admonition - are all adequate factors that could send a person into depression. We are often overdosed with verbal abuse yet we need to accept it as a part of life. Every where we go, people of this Earth tends to have similar ideologies about obese people and how to abuse them. Every family get together has a distant adult cousin or an aunt who goes..."how will you get a good husband in this condition?" or a very self-proclaimed- caring aunt who goes " do this, do that..my friend knows a friend whose kid was overweight but she gave this and that and now shes very beautiful". Oh My Flabs!!!!
 As a child, like all other girl child, becoming a princess was a recurring dream both day and night, but never in the obese physical state. The faces of those princesses may have ours but with beautiful bodies that the normal world accepts. Puberty hits us the same way it does a normal teen - getting attracted to cute boys, watching friends getting asked out by their crushes and wishing silently that a similar fairy might work such magic on us.But reality bit us hard- we needed to stay steer clear away from those crushes and suppress the attraction as top secret as it could be, in order to avoid further humiliation and hatred from the heroes of our lives. Love, of any kind was already painful from the start!!! Post teenage life, one becomes convinced that the path of romance is one big hurdle. Men don't turn heads over the sight of obese ladies crossing roads. Designers are not interested in getting an obese woman for a muse. What is to become of an obese person??

Well, there is another thing called wit, brains,intellect, good heart and smart personalities that obese person can possess. What we lack in figures we can make it up with our wit, and personality. Its no use to be depressed over a relative or a stranger who calls us fat, lardy or the likes. We need to get a good education, or be so well established that the same person who has called us names, would have to kiss our feet and ask for a favour. As for a husband or a partner or a soulmate...whoever has eyes to see our inner beauty and care enough to know us better gets to be the luckiest person on Earth.
The world may see us as abnormal, outcasts and not trendy, but the world itself is round and never a stick-like shape....so figure.......